Improving dating skills is an ongoing process.

8 Tips for Improving Your Dating Skills in 2024

Ready to enter the new year with confidence and a deeper understanding of the dating world in 2024?

We put together our top tips for improving your dating skills in 2024 so you can get closer to finding your ideal match.


8 Tips for Improving Your Dating Skills in 2024

1. Get to Know More About Yourself

The more in touch you are with yourself, the better you’ll be at realising who would make a good match for you.

Spend time learning what makes you tick by asking yourself questions such as:

  • Do I like to be greeted at the end of a long workday and chat about how it was? OR do I want 10 or 15 minutes to myself to decompress?
  • What matters most in my life
  • What positive attributes do I have to offer a partner?
  • What do I want and need from a partner?
  • What am I most worried about in the future?
  • What are my near and long-term goals?
  • What would be my weaknesses in a relationship?
  • What is my biggest priority right now?
  • How do I handle conflict?
  • What are my favourite characteristics that I portray?


2. Practice Makes Perfect

As with any other skill, improving your dating skills takes practice. Even if you go out on dates and aren’t finding a match just yet, every date offers valuable experience.

A date is a chance to potentially meet your perfect match. But it’s also a chance to improve your dating skills, build your confidence, and make personal improvements.

Approach dating with a positive mindset.


3. Ask Questions

Whether it is a general or romantic conversation, talking with someone who rambles on about themself and doesn’t bother to learn anything about you is frustrating.

When dating, learn to ask questions about your date. You can stick to the basics, such as what they do for a living, what they enjoy doing in their free time, how long they’ve lived in the area, what brought them to the area, and things of that sort.

Don’t be afraid to practice, or think of some questions before the date. Coming up with questions before the date that are a little more unique and personal will really show your date that you are interested and invested in the date, some questions you can ask are:

  • Are you family-oriented?
  • Do you enjoy your career?
  • What are you most proud of?
  • Do you have siblings?
  • What are your fears?
  • Do you have pets?
  • What are your favourite foods?


4. Work On Your Communication Skills

Strong communication is one of the most important aspects of creating and maintaining a healthy relationship.

As you go on dates, continue working on your communication in the meantime.

Here are tips on being a good communicator in relationships:

  • Address issues honestly and clearly — don’t make your partner read your mind
  • Be assertive
  • Do you go silent if you’re upset with someone? Work on learning how to express your frustrations to your partner, even if you’re mad
  • Be willing to open up and share your feelings, even if you are feeling vulnerable
  • Be clear about your needs, wants, and expectations in a relationship
  • Use “I” statements as opposed to “you” statements
  • Be direct yet thoughtful when communicating with your partner
  • Practice your listening skills too!

Ask open-ended questions to encourage meaningful conversations.


5. Be Confident Whilst Being Yourself

You need to love yourself before you can love someone else.

We’ve all heard this but gaining confidence isn’t an easy process. Our society places immense pressure on both men and women to look a certain way, dress a certain way, and act a certain way.

Be confident in who you are and put your authentic self forward, without falling prey to the pressures of society. Otherwise, you are wasting both your time and your dates.

Our guide on 5 Steps to Boost Your Confidence as a Man can help get you started. Or, feel free to get in touch with us about how our personalised lifestyle coaching can help you learn to be more confident.


6. Learn From Rejection and Be Patient

It’s important to recognise that rejection is natural when you put yourself out there, so be prepared because not every date will be perfect. Rejection in the dating world is unavoidable.

Rejection hurts and it is ok to feel disappointed. The important part is not letting rejection make you question yourself. If you didn’t click with someone, leave it at that. Don’t overthink it or look into it too much.

Rejection is proof that you’re out there, you’re trying, and you’re putting in the effort toward meeting someone. It may sound cheesy, but be proud of yourself for putting that effort in.

Be patient and try to view each rejection as information and experience that pushes you closer to meeting an awesome partner.

Read More: How to Deal with Rejection in Love

Understand that not every date will lead to a relationship, and that's okay.


7. Be Realistic With Your Expectations

Unfortunately, not every date is going to turn into a meaningful connection or long-term partner. As opposed to movies where everything seems to happen at a rapid pace, real-life connections can take time.

A connection with a potential match should not be rushed or forced. If it is forced, you may end up settling for a partner that isn’t right for you or is less than you deserve. Rather, a genuine connection will feel natural and exciting for both of you, while moving at a natural pace.

Along with being realistic with timing expectations, be realistic with your expectations of a partner. We’re all human. No partner is going to match all your expectations or desires for a relationship.


8. Call in a Professional

Still overwhelmed and needing some guidance when it comes to your dating skills? We get it, sometimes the dating scene can be tough but that’s where we can come in to help.

We’ve worked with hundreds of successful Perth singles, helping them find genuine connections, and teaching them confidence-building tools not only to apply in the dating scene but also in their day-to-day life.

Working with us as your matchmaker, lifestyle coach, or dating coach can help you hone your communication skills, build your self-confidence, and take the time and hard work out of the dating process.

Work with a matchmaker, lifestyle coach, or dating coach.


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