10 First Date Tips For Women
Feeling some first date nerves? Our experts have put together a guide packed with romantic tips for you to feel comfortable on a first date.
10 Tips For Calming First Date Nerves
1. Dress Appropriately And Comfortably
You want to look put together for a first date, but you don’t have to go all out. Depending on where you are going, opt for a simple, stylish outfit such as a great pair of (comfortable) shoes, flattering jeans or skirt, and a nice top.
Your first date outfit should reflect a little about who you are, but also be comfortable. If your clothing or shoes are uncomfortable, they will likely distract you from enjoying your date.
If you are unsure of the dress code for a particular restaurant, check reviews online to get an idea.
Here are a few more tips for choosing a first date outfit:
- Don’t wear an article of clothing or a pair of shoes without testing them first (you don’t want to find out mid-date that your new top is uncomfortable or your new heels are pinching your feet)
- Keep your outfit streamlined and simple
- Keep jewellery to a minimum (opt for a statement piece of jewellery like a necklace or bracelet)
- Avoid outfits that are too revealing, tight, restrict your movement, or are uncomfortable
- Opt for a smoky eye or a red lip, but not necessarily both
- Use a light spritz of your favourite scent
2. Do Some Planning Beforehand
Planning can help ease any first date nerves. Whether you listen to your favourite playlist beforehand or think about some questions you could ask, putting in a bit of prep work can help you feel a bit more comfortable as the date approaches.
If you are going to a restaurant, it can be helpful to look over the menu beforehand. By getting an idea of what you’d like to order, you can spend more time focusing on your date.
3. Be Yourself
As cheesy as it sounds, it is important to be yourself on a first date. If you aren’t authentic, you will likely end up wasting your date’s time, and your own. Genuine matches can only be formed from true, honest connections.
4. Steer Clear of Controversial Topics
It is generally a good idea to stay away from discussing politics, religion, or exes on a first date. However, if an issue is a deal-breaker for you, it may be best to make sure you and your date are on the same page.
5. Keep the Conversation Light and Fun
What do you do for a living? Do you have any kids? Have you been married before?
While these are interesting questions, they can come off as a little too intense for a first date. Try to keep the conversation light and casual.
Here are some examples of great questions to ask on a first date:
- What do you love to do in your spare time?
- Where is the most recent place you’ve travelled to?
- What is your favourite restaurant?
- Read any good books lately?
- What are your hobbies?
- Seen any good movies lately?
- What kind of music do you like?
6. Use Your Body Language
Communication doesn’t just happen through words. Certain movements and actions can give your date subtle clues that you are into him:
- Touch him gently on the arm or back
- Angle your body toward his
- Make eye contact
- Touch his knee or shoulder
- Lean into him
7. Put Your Phone Away
Isn’t it the worst when you are hanging out with a friend and they constantly check their phone? Respect your date and keep your phone in your bag and on silent. Ignore the temptation to check social media, glance at business emails, or text.
Even if the date isn’t going well, respect your date and stay in the present moment.
8. Be Honest
Avoid trying to over-deliver yourself or exaggerate. You don’t have to share every little detail of your life, but be open and honest about who you are. Trust in your ability to attract a wonderful, successful partner based on who you are, not who you think he wants you to be.
9. Think About How You Want to End the Date
How you end a date affects whether or not there will be a second date. Rushing a goodbye and keeping your distance shows your date you weren’t feeling it. But what if you are hoping for a second date? If you are hoping to see your date again, saying something as simple as, “I had a great time and would love to see you again”, can do the trick.
10. Don’t Worry If It Doesn’t Work Out
Instead of thinking it was a waste of time if a first date didn’t turn into a second, try to start looking at every date as a chance to learn more about yourself and what you are looking for. You’ll likely get so much more out of your dates this way.
Even if a first date doesn’t lead to a second one, it is still getting you closer to finding the ideal match for you. It’s also a great chance to improve your social skills and have some fun learning more about what you want in a partner.
If you realise in the middle of a date that there won’t be a second, be polite and see the date through. It’s okay to be honest if you just weren’t feeling a spark. If he mentions he wants to see you again, you could politely let him know that you didn’t feel a romantic connection.
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We hope these romantic tips for her (do we need this?) help make your first date as enjoyable as possible. Remember to have fun and relax and accept that not all first dates will turn into second dates.
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